Saturday, October 19, 2013

WHY CHANGE. BE YOURSELF.

It's better to be yourself and have no friends, than it is to be like your friends and have no self.

Friends? Fri-end!!
Freedom ends?
People like to makes friends!
Everybody likes to have a bunch of friends
No doubt, having friends or hang out with friends is really something good!
After all, no man is no island!

A Friend generally can be defined as someone who will share your joy and lend you his/her shoulder when you are down!
What where on earth can we find someone like that in our lives?
If u are lucky, u might meet someone like that, somebody who will be there for u rain or shine!
However, many people, or I should say most of the human beings are not that lucky! 



True Friends should be someone who can accept who you are!
They know your weaknesses but they will choose to ignore them and only see the good side of u!
In fact, they are the one who you able to face them without wearing a mask not even a fake smile!
They don't want you to change, they want u to be yourself!
Most importantly, they want u to be HAPPY!
And hence, you will be comfortable speeding time with them!
These are basically how I define TRUE FRIEND!
People that I can 100% trust!! 

As I mentioned, it is a bonus to make such TRUE FRIENDS but what about other?
Are they FAKE FRIENDS?
Hmm... Not exactly FAKE! Maybe just NORMAL FRIEND?

So, what are NORMAL FRIENDS, what the difference?
To me, these type to friends are just a TOUCH-&-GO friend!
Why? Because as certain period of life, we do need support from others!
Maybe someone to talk to, classmates, staff, junior.... Someone that we need to work with or spend a period of time with them!
Well, we don't called them as EMEMY or STRANGER, right?
So they definitely consider as friend!
But usually, these so called FRIENDS will want us to do something for them!
They tend to want us to change because of them
Maybe a better word to use is COMPROMISE!

I have seen cases like a person changes her habits because of her friends!
It is something like PEER PRESSURE!
Just like, to mix into a gangster group, you need to smoke?
And to get along with them, you learn to smoke and practice that bad habit?
We are human beings, we wanted to be accepted by others!
We want everyone to like us!
Hence, we tend to hide our true self or try to change ourselves so that we can be accepted by others!
It is NORMAL!

But, step back and look the whole scenario again!
We are changing who we are just because of others?
We hide ourselves!!
We are no longer who we are!
Instead, we tend to be who people want us to be!
We lose our uniquely!
We are now living in others' eye and lose ourselves!!
We don't have self anymore!!
So, see, OMG!

Stop changing our habits, our mind, our thinking.... In order we can have tons of all these SO CALLED FRIENDS!
We should only change for our own benefits
Change if and only we, ourselves think that we need to change!!

It's better to be yourself and have no friends, than it is to be like your friends and have no self
BEING ALONE IS BETTER THAN BEING NO SELF!!

Anyway, we still have family support, right?

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